lessons learned

Lessons Learned: Letting go of the past

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” 
― Søren Kierkegaard

Over a year ago I wrote a Lessons Learned entry about maturity and within that post I mentioned the importance of letting go of your significant other’s past. Who they were or what they did can help you learn who they used to be. But that’s the point, that was who they were before you. Letting your partner’s past not affect you is a big step in a relationship but letting go of your own past is an even bigger step. Whether it is in romantic relationships, friendships, family, or how you view yourself there are three points that I have learned regarding your own past:

Learn from it: Every past situation can be a life lesson. You may not learn from an argument that happened yesterday or even a decision that happened years ago, but eventually, with time, there will be something that you gained from any situation. Whether it is learning to always trust in your family’s opinion, ways to be a better friend, or to never again attempt that one  fashion failure. How little or big the experience, something is learned from it. Even if that something is not make the same mistake twice.

Let it go: As cliché as it may sound, the past is simply the past. I am extremely guilty of playing out the “what if’s” of past situations. “What if I did this, said that, did more of this or less of that.” Dwelling on it will make moving on harder to grasp. You may not understand the past now but I found that one day  you will understand why things turned out the way they did.


Don’t regret it: I believe this point to be the most important.  No matter how hard it may have been or how much you may wish you never made a certain decision, in the end you cannot regret it. If I look at myself today, what I have accomplished,  who I am, and what I know, I know those characteristics that make me proud of myself would not be relevant if my past life had been any different. The most important thing is that we have today and our future to make ourselves even better than our past.

The best effort I can make everyday is to put yesterday behind me and keep looking forward. And on a lighter note when we keep looking  forward we see the weekend quickly approaching.

Keep your head held high and let the past be the past.

Cheers to this being the 100th post of Head Held High!

Lessons Learned: Having a Big Girl Job

Good morning sunshine, it’s been a while.

I have good news and bad, but not too bad, whatever- news.

The good news is that I have been permanently hired at my job. That’s right, I’m no longer an unworthy contractor who is like the black sheep child of the company. I am now legit. With paid vacation, a raise, and the option of having benefits. I would have never thought I would be so excited about something like choosing my health benefits or not. Oh, how boring am I?

The bad, but not too bad, whatever- news is that I have been swamped with overtime. I guess that’s a good thing for my bank account, but it has left me pretty drained and tired. I feel like a grandma. This explains the dreaded week and a half of not blogging. Eee. Please forgive me.

This past week it finally hit me, I have a big girl job. Although I’ve been at the same company for the past year and a half, having that permanent position is when it finally hit me, I’m in the real world.

As much as I wish I was still folding clothes at the old surf shop or being a gymnastics coach at the YMCA, there is a lot that I have grown from and things that have made me survive in the real world.


Life seems to be all about the paths you take and what you make of it.

Lessons learned:

1. Don’t let anyone underestimate you

Being young in this crazy corporate world, people, mostly the old stale geezers, treat you like a child. Your ideas, suggestions, and resolutions to problems are tossed out the window because of your age. What do I know? But from having a twenty-something supervisor who has worked his ass off getting to where he is now, has taught me to not let anyone undermine you. Although I hated him at the time, he pushed me to have a voice and stand my ground. Now all those old farts who told me I didn’t know what I was doing in the beginning come to me for help and advice. Being young we are equip with quick minds, education, and the ability to be the upcoming successors, many people who have been here in the workplace may not like that. But why should we bring ourselves down to the comfort zone of the people who have been here for years? Why should we allow them to cripple our success and youth?

2. Adapt to change

The second thing that has benefited me greatly and has gotten me to where I am this far is adapting to change. While everyone else is busy complaining about having to learn a new process, be the one who is perfecting the process. You’ll soon be the youthful- go-to person. I kicked myself for complaining and whining about my supervisor when we got the news that the roles have changed and we are getting a new supervisor. We all begged for him to not leave us for another group, but the only thing we could do is accept and adapt to our new supervisor. Trust me, whether change is good or bad, do yourself a favor and just adapt to it instead of fighting it. Your work ethic will be viewed as positive and driven.

3. Let your hard work be known

From the first day I started at my job right out of college I learned two great words: Speak Up. If you need help, speak up. If you have an idea, speak up. If you have an opinion, speak up. If you have succeeded, speak up. I’ve learned making your voice known puts your name out there. When you have been praised by another company member through an email or voicemail, save it. You may use it at a later date for leverage to a raise or new position. When I went to my manager to request an increase in compensation, I was so scared. Worried I was being too pushy, or maybe even undeserving of the raise since it hasn’t already been given. Little did I know it was already in the works, and even other managers wanted to move me to their team. In the end it is about selling yourself and your contributions to the company. Ask and you may receive. So have a voice and let your hard work be known.

I hope the lessons I have learned can be beneficial to at least one person who reads this. It’s a tough world out there but we can make the best of it.

Happy Monday! Here’s to my last day of being 23!

Happy 1st Birthday Blog


I cannot believe Head Held High has been online for exactly one year today. Although I know this blog needs a lot of improving, I am so thankful for everyone who has continued to follow it. So many things have happened in just one year for this little blog. Having gained more readers. Thank you, thank you.  Success of Workout Wednesdays. Improvements in photos. And the growth of a blogger. And I am still learning so much.

Over this past year I have changed tremendously and it is apparent through comparing my older posts to the recent ones. As my personal life has become more demanding with a drastic change of responsibility at work, dedication to my fitness, gotta try to practice what you preach, and focusing on family and friends and puppies, there has been a fluctuation of blog post throughout the year. I want to post more often, more of what my readers will take an interest in and more raw emotion. Yes, the blog is called head held high, but its difficult to consistently be positive, care free, and confident all the time. It’s just not possible. We are only human. I want to post more Lessons Learned and the everyday hardships of being twenty – something, because I have learned that many people may be facing the same thing I am. It’s this weird universal feeling of you are not alone.

Along with posting more consistently and more lessons learned, there are two more things I also want to try which I have been so scared to do. DIY posts and fashion/outfit posts. I am a little DIY challenged but I really want to break this streak of failure. I see the beautiful things other bloggers make and everything on Pinterest, and if they can do so can I. Right? Staying positive. Now for the fashion posts, I just need to focus more on me, specifically my wardrobe. I need more retail therapy in my life and these posts may be what I need to keep up with regular therapy sessions. Not going to lie, I am a little scared to do it but hopefully it is not a complete disaster.

Thanks again to everyone who has ever read my blog, accidentally or intentionally. I leave you with the first entry ever posted on Head Held High “The Beginning“.  Sigh oh how times have changed.

Just remember to keep your head held high.