relationships

Love is a kiss goodnight

Every relationship has its ups and downs. And no single relationship is perfect. There will be arguments, misunderstandings, disagreements, jealously, anger, and confusion.

And there is no such thing as a fairy tale relationship that doesn’t take work. Hate to break it to all those ladies who think they are princesses and don’t need to compromise. But you have to take the good with the bad.

I am very far from being any type of relationship expert, and I haven’t been in many relationships. But the one thing I have learned is that despite the past’s up and downs, it’s the little things that count.

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After almost two years of being together, my guy still walks me to the door at night and kisses me goodnight. And even though at times it may seem like that honeymoon stage is over, the tiniest thing like still walking a girl to the door for a kiss keeps that spark alive.

How’s that for a mushy Monday?

Keep your head held high and the spark alive.

Lessons Learned: Letting go of the past

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” 
― Søren Kierkegaard

Over a year ago I wrote a Lessons Learned entry about maturity and within that post I mentioned the importance of letting go of your significant other’s past. Who they were or what they did can help you learn who they used to be. But that’s the point, that was who they were before you. Letting your partner’s past not affect you is a big step in a relationship but letting go of your own past is an even bigger step. Whether it is in romantic relationships, friendships, family, or how you view yourself there are three points that I have learned regarding your own past:

Learn from it: Every past situation can be a life lesson. You may not learn from an argument that happened yesterday or even a decision that happened years ago, but eventually, with time, there will be something that you gained from any situation. Whether it is learning to always trust in your family’s opinion, ways to be a better friend, or to never again attempt that one  fashion failure. How little or big the experience, something is learned from it. Even if that something is not make the same mistake twice.

Let it go: As cliché as it may sound, the past is simply the past. I am extremely guilty of playing out the “what if’s” of past situations. “What if I did this, said that, did more of this or less of that.” Dwelling on it will make moving on harder to grasp. You may not understand the past now but I found that one day  you will understand why things turned out the way they did.

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Don’t regret it: I believe this point to be the most important.  No matter how hard it may have been or how much you may wish you never made a certain decision, in the end you cannot regret it. If I look at myself today, what I have accomplished,  who I am, and what I know, I know those characteristics that make me proud of myself would not be relevant if my past life had been any different. The most important thing is that we have today and our future to make ourselves even better than our past.

The best effort I can make everyday is to put yesterday behind me and keep looking forward. And on a lighter note when we keep looking  forward we see the weekend quickly approaching.

Keep your head held high and let the past be the past.

Cheers to this being the 100th post of Head Held High!

There is so much more…

This morning I heard an old song from one of my favorite artists and the result was beyond humbling.

With all the stresses of life, we think the biggest worries of our current life are so drastically important that no one else’s situation compares to our own. We are blinded by our own minimal burdens. But in the end that’s all they are. Minimal.

The stresses of when am I going to get promoted, why does  he or she no longer speak to me, why do I physically look like this, why not buy my happiness, I hate my job, I hate school, and the list goes on and on.

Whatever our worries are we simply forget that there is so much more to life.

My favorite line in this song is, in a world of suffering why should I be so blessed? Which brings all of my current stresses of wanting to move out and advance in my career while still maintaining a social life are realized as minimal.

I am blessed I have a home with a loving family while others may not have a roof over their head or no one by their side. I am blessed I have a job while many others are unemployed and struggling for their next meal. I am blessed I am surrounded by the friends in my life even if I don’t see them as much as I would like.

So I am starting this week off with the mindset that there is so much more. Spreading the positivity, the love, and keeping my head held high.